Archive for July, 2012


Thursday, July 26th, 2012

If you’re looking for the non-traditional books about pregnancy then you’ve come to the right place. These books give you just that. Read some reviews and then let us know what you think.

 A Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy: “This book was one of the few that gives facts and a personal touch, without scaring you to death during your pregnancy. I thoroughly enjoyed it and either buy it for or recommend it to all my pregnant friends!”

“I bought this during my second pregnancy, and swear I could have written it myself!  It is truly what a girlfriend would tell you, had you thought to ask. It is also hilarious and a great break from those serious books.

Shopaholic & Baby: Thoroughly fun read - as usual!!! Couldn’t put it down - always glad to see the next one that comes out! A real escape type of reading!!!”

“The shopaholic is shopping for two! Happily pregnant, she ready to go(though not to thrilled with the whole “Labor before Baby” thing)! after picking a celebrity doctor she finds out the Doc’s Lukes Ex-Girlfriend!!! When Becky does it, she does it big.  Buy it. Enjoy it.  Hope there’s another book to come!”

Belly Laughs: “This pregnancy book by Jenny McCarthy was just what I was looking for. It’s hip, freah and new. Being pregnant for the first time is a little stressing but reading books like this make me feel better. Loved it!!!”

“My husband and I are going to start trying soon, and I bought a couple pregnancy books, including this one, to start our journey. This was my first read, and I am so glad it was! It’s great to read something humorous about this whole experience, as usually you only hear the grim details! Quick read!”

The Bright Side of Disaster: “Great book in general but especially for a pregnant woman or new mom! “

“I enjoyed every minute of this book. It was helpful for anybody that is a new mom or thinking about having kids as well as a fun read. I couldn’t put it down. I hope Katherine writes more books in the future because she is a talented author.”


Monday, July 23rd, 2012

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Why Alone Time Is So Important for Boys And Girls

Wednesday, July 18th, 2012


Author, research psychologist, and gender expert

7-year-old Tommy is bright, active, and always on the go. He’s very much what we think of when we think of a “typical” boy: loves bikes, sports, comic books. As soon as he comes home from school — or, in more recent weeks, his half-day sessions at basketball camp — he expectantly asks his mom, Maggie: So what do we do now?

Most days, Maggie responds to this question by discussing with Tommy what they might do together. Then she stops whatever she’s doing — whether it’s work, laundry, or getting dinner ready for the rest of the family — and does the chosen activity with him. They’ll play cards or take a walk to get ice cream, or run around the park to let some of that “boy energy” out until Tommy’s dad gets home from work to take over. Although Maggie sometimes wonders if Tommy couldn’t do some of these after-school activities by himself — or maybe spend a quiet afternoon reading a book — she reasons that boys need “active” time in order to express their “boyness.” And she wants him to feel engaged, and enjoy being a kid. In part, she’s filling a role: Tommy isn’t an only child, but his little sister is too young to be a playmate, and there are only a few other kids in the neighborhood. In any case, Maggie figures, better than sticking him in front of the television, right?

Better than television, certainly. But constantly entertaining our kids is not without consequence. The role of the ever-present playmate that I see many parents slipping into can indeed be damaging. We’ve been reading lately about how Americans, by and large are raising a generation of spoiled children. In many ways, overindulging kids with scheduled time and constant parental attention is akin to spoiling them rotten with material goods.

Modern parents are almost obsessed with filling up their children’s time. There are after-school classes, team sports, camps, lessons. What’s often missing from the schedule is time spent alone. Alone time is not time spent unsupervised, necessarily. Depending on the age of your child, that may or may not be appropriate. Instead, alone time is time a son or daughter uses to learn how to entertain themselves or just relax, without help or input from parents, siblings, friends, or babysitters. And it is a crucial aspect of the development of independence. In fact, studies show that children who know how to fill their time alone rarely feel isolated or lonely. Instead, they learn to be content with whatever situation is at hand and truly have fun being creative in the moment.

The feeling of needing to entertain children is common among parents. As a mother of boy, I remember the feeling of wanting to encourage my son to be active, to develop those “boy” qualities I thought were so important, like athleticism or strength. Often, that meant I’d be out at the playground in the middle of winter, for the third time that day. The parents of one third grade boy Glen, the younger child in a family with an older sister, hired a young adult male babysitter who followed Glen around all day, at the ready, for any activity Glen choose whether it be tennis, basketball, or attending a local sports event. But by filling our kids every waking minute, with sports or just plain companionship, we risk stifling their self-sufficiency, as well as their imaginations. We risk raising children who always seek support.

Take 9-year-old Sam. Sam’s weekends are jam packed with little league, scheduled play dates, hikes with his dad. Most weekends also include some “special” event, like a trip to the circus, a museum, or a professional baseball game. No one could say that Sam is lacking quality time spent with his parents, who by all accounts are involved, loving, and supportive. These are good things. Still, although he is almost always busy, Sam gets bored easily. He complains often, and expects others to help him shake that boredom. Sam’s mother, Lisa, reports that it has become virtually impossible to ask Sam to go play by himself — he’s got a bedroom full of toys and books — or even color at the kitchen table while she’s making dinner. “He thinks we’re punishing him,” says Lisa. “He doesn’t understand what he’s done to ‘deserve’ this alone time.” But Sam doesn’t know how to play by himself because he’s never had to.

Many parents feel the need to be their child’s main source of entertainment because they want their kids to like them or fear that lack of stimulation will put their kid at a disadvantage and somehow their achievements will lag behind their peers. Others feel guilty — for working or for not giving their child a playmate in the form of a sibling. Others — and I see this often with dads — simply love spending time with their sons, playing catch, shooting hoops. That’s great. But when it interferes with a child’s ability to face alone time without something resembling panic or sadness, you’re not doing your child any favors. Other parents want to protect their children from being lonely. But if your child has trouble making friends, the answer is not to simply fill that role yourself. When you’re stepping in as a playmate, you’re preventing your child from developing the qualities needed to go out and make friends, and further compromising their ability to connect with kids his own age.

Instead, try incorporating some structured and unstructured alone time. This is a time when your son or daughter can choose, within boundaries you set, where he/she wants to be and what they want to do. Explain that “everybody’s doing it” — Mom’s going to make a few phone calls, Dad’s going to spend some time working in the garden — so that he/she knows they are not missing out on fun other family members are having. Let them know it’s their special time to themselves: No sharing or talking required. And then say it’s up to them to figure the rest out. Turn being along from a negative thing into a positive way to encourage self-reliance, creativity, and an enjoyment of self.

Of course, spending quality time with your child is far better than giving in to constant demands for “stuff” or, yes, sticking them in front of the TV. I’m not suggesting not spending time with your child. That’s important, certainly. But it’s also important to remember that alone time is a crucial, and too often forgotten, part of development. The real world is not a constant party, or a day at camp. Real world includes downtime, and it includes alone time. And your job as a parent isn’t to entertain your children 24 hours a day. Introducing your child early on to the idea of spending time alone — and liking it — will help your son and/or daughter become a better companion to others and get more from their relationships with friends — and with you. They will grow to be an adult who can be happy on his/her own, or with someone else. And isn’t that the goal?

Exercising After Baby:

Monday, July 16th, 2012

Simple exercises for the new mom

If you’ve just had a baby, exercise is probably not your number one priority right now. Diaper changes, bath time, snuggling, shushing and feeding schedules are taking up all of your time and your energy! However, there are a few things a new mom can do to help recover from her birth and make the first steps back towards fitness in the first weeks and months of your new baby’s life.

The Immediate Post-Partum Period (Weeks 1-6)

Note: If you have experienced a traumatic vaginal birth or C-section you should speak with your care provider to determine what types of exercises are recommended for you and when you can resume.

The Pelvic Floor/Kegals

If you have had an uncomplicated vaginal delivery then you will likely find it fairly easy to resume pelvic floor exercises, like kegals, as early as 24 hours after the birth. Strengthening the pelvic floor in the early days can help to speed the healing process of the perineum (to encourage blood flow and oxygen to the area) and will also help to reduce incontinence caused by pregnancy. Try 2-3 sets of 20, holding each muscle contraction from 1?2 seconds, increasing the length of time as your strength improves.

Belly Breathing (Isometric Exercise)

Imagine your lungs are in your belly. Expand your belly as you inhale (you will see your belly get bigger) as you exhale, pull your belly button back toward your spine. Hold your abdominals (not your breath) in this position for 3 seconds, increasing to 10. Try 3 sets of 20.

Pelvic Tilt

Lie on your back with your knees bent. Press the small of your back into the floor while simultaneously lifting your pelvic bone towards your belly button. Try 3 sets of 20.

Side Lying Leg Lifts

These are great exercises to do while feeding the baby! Lie on your side with your top leg resting in front of the bottom. Begin by lifting the bottom leg up and down slowly for 3 sets of 20. Repeat with the top leg. Afterwards switch sides.

Shoulder Rotations

The increased weight and size of your breasts coupled with the long periods of holding baby in common feeding postures causes many new mothers to complain of muscle pain and tension between their shoulder blades. Shoulder rotations will remind you to correct your posture and strengthen this muscle group at the same time, and can easily be done in a seated position. Begin by lifting your shoulders up towards your ears and rotate them backwards, then squeeze your shoulder blades together. Drop back to normal position and repeat. Try 3 sets of 20.

After your Post-Partum Check Up (6 weeks and beyond)

Once your care provider has completed his/her exam and you are cleared for exercise you may begin a more challenging fitness program.

  • Walking is a wonderful weight-bearing and low impact activity that many moms do on a regular basis, but it’s still important to remember to go slow at first. As you increase your strength and stamina you will be able to increase your intensity and speed. Listen to your body and don’t push too fast too soon.
  • Classes are a great way to build a network of support for you and socialization for your baby. An exercise program that is designed just for moms and new babies should address general concerns related to being a new mom as well as fitness-related issues. Make sure your class is led by a certified fitness instructor who has experience with prenatal and postnatal women.
  • Consume quality calories and drink plenty of water. Eating right and staying hydrated will ensure both you and your baby have the right nutrition & energy needs to meet the demands that motherhood brings.
  • Remember to build in time to rest. Try to go to bed early. Being disciplined in this area will help you feel better overall.

Most importantly, be kind and gentle to yourself and remember to take it one date at a time!

Jennifer Rogers is the owner of FITMOM Durham. A pre and post natal fitness specialist, Lamaze Childbirth Educator and mother of 2 busy boys.

Grab Bag Event!!

Friday, July 13th, 2012

One Day Only!
Stuff as many clearance items as possible in a bag for just $15. Yeah! Only $15!
Saturday July 14, 2020
9:30am - 6:00pmPLUS … our super bonus deal - 10% offall the other great clothes too!

Our racks are bursting so you don’t want to miss this sale. 
Enter to win a
$50 Once Upon A Child gift certificate 

(We will not be buying during this 1-day event.We apologize for any inconvenience.)

*Offer may not be used in conjunction with any other discount or sale. Not applicable to prior purchases. Valid at participating store(s) listed below.
What’s a Grab Bag Sale?… here are the rules 

1. Get to Once Upon a Child, Ajaxreally, really, super early and wait for the doors to open at 9:30.

 2. Grab a bag, or 2, or 3, or more!

 3. Shop our jam packed racks for red slashed clearance items.

 4. Fold, roll and shove your items into the bag. Try to get as much as you possibly can in there, but remember, the bag can’t be over-flowing. Take off all the hangers so they don’t take up any room (bins are placed around the store for you to drop them in)

 5. Get in line to pay a measly $15 for the bazillions of things you got in each bag!

 6. Oh yeah … all the other great clothes are on sale too so don’t forget to grab lots of those - 10% off, just this one day!


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What It’s Really Like to Be a Stay-at-Home Mom

Wednesday, July 11th, 2012
No, stay-at-home moms do not have a ton of time to kill and aren’t sitting home depressed or going crazy (well, at least not most of the time). Now’s the time to dispel the myths about SAHMs.

By Bonnie Vengrow

If you would’ve told me that I’d one day willingly leave my job to raise a child, I would’ve laughed in your face (or, at the very least, behind your back). Not only did I love working, I regarded SAHM-hood with as much enthusiasm as a Pap smear. Be home with a baby all day? No way, not me, no thanks.

But after 12 love-soaked weeks with my newborn son, Joshua, I knew I wouldn’t be able to go back to the daily grind. So I traded in my BlackBerry for a baby carrier and became a full-fledged at-home mom. Though mostly great, the transition hasn’t been without some hiccups. Turns out, being at home isn’t as easy as it looks. Here are some surprising things I’ve learned.

Even if you hire a cleaning service, you will clean things. Constantly

The other morning, Joshua and my cat conspired to defile the new area rug. The cat yakked up a big fur ball while my kid dumped a cup full of milk onto the rug, mashing it into the fibers for good measure. Aggravating? You bet. Typical? Oh, yeah. Even if you managed to give birth to the only hygienic kid on earth, wiping up spills, boogers, poop and mystery messes is still a major part of the SAHM gig.

You’ll show off your guns (yes, I’m talking about arms)

Pushing a stroller, picking up baby, reaching for fallen sippy cups — it’s no surprise that after a few months of being a SAHM, I was in the best shape of my life. Caring for a child all day is like being in a gym for nine hours straight, but without the muscleheads, throbbing music and sweat-soaked machines. (And can we talk about mommy arms for a second? They’re awesome!)

Your partner is your sugar daddy

Asking your partner for money can be a pride-swallowing, hand-wringing experience, especially if you were financially independent before baby. This is tricky terrain that’s best planned out before you give up your full-time job. The general rule of thumb is to try to live on your partner’s salary for a few months before quitting, but you should also lay out how much you’ll need each month for household and personal expenses. And don’t forget to talk about how you’ll access the money. Trust me, the last thing you need is to be fresh out of baby wipes and cold hard cash.

You haven’t worked this hard at making friends since summer camp

I don’t want to go to a dark place or anything, but there’s a nugget of truth in all that Debbie Downer talk about SAHMs feeling isolated. Let’s face it: You’re spending most of your waking hours with your child, so you’re bound to feel more than a little cut off from the adult world. (After all, most of the people you know are at work all day.) The best advice is to get out there and find some other moms you enjoy being around. Some good places to start looking are at a playgroup, the park, church, even in your pediatrician’s waiting room.

Your performance review is your baby’s well visit

Speaking of my pediatrician, I like him and all, but at every well baby visit, I feel like he’s judging my mothering skills — and I’m barely eking out a passing grade. I know it’s my first-time mom insecurities rearing their ugly head, but I can’t help it. The way I see it, I gave up my job to raise this little boy, so if he’s not walking by 12 months or has stopped sleeping through the night, it’s clearly because I’m doing something wrong — and I don’t have anyone to blame but myself.

TGI Naptime

When Joshua was born, everyone advised me to “sleep when baby sleeps.” Um, not a chance. When he’s awake, he requires near-constant attention, so naptime is my only opportunity to snag some moments for myself. I like to think of it as my mini vacation, a luxurious stretch of minutes just begging to be filled with fun, frivolity and, okay, an occasional episode of The Real Housewives of Orange County.

You’ll think you’ve got ADD

There’s a little-talked-about side effect of caring for a baby full-time: You won’t be able to finish anything, from a simple sentence or a bowl of cereal to cleaning the toilet. In the beginning, it’s because you’re constantly switching gears to stay a step ahead of your little one. But after a while, that pace becomes a habit, a fact that hits you when you look at the pile of dog-eared, half-read magazines waiting patiently on your nightstand.

You’ll feel relieved when friends complain about their day care or nanny

I’m not proud to admit this, but when my working-mom friends gripe about their day care center putting on the TV all day or the sitter leaving their child in a wet diaper too long, a little part of me is relieved that my son doesn’t have to deal with that. Obviously, I’m not a perfect parent, and of course I’d never want to see harm come to my friends’ kids, but knowing that I have total say over my son’s day-to-day is pretty comforting.

People will assume you do nothing all day

Some people have asked me, “What do you do all day?” It’s a well-intentioned question but totally out of line and can make even the hardest-working SAHM feel like crap. The truth is, I could list every chore, diaper and errand I’ve tended to that day and how I’ve been going nonstop since 6 a.m., but unless you’ve been there, it sounds like child’s play.

Everyone has an opinion about SAHMs — and they aren’t afraid to share it with you

When I was in college, I switched majors from animal science to journalism, and no one batted an eye. But when I became a full-time mom, suddenly everyone had something to say. Some were enthusiastic (“You have a new boss now,” my mom gushed), but others were skeptical (“Don’t you have a master’s degree?” a friend asked accusingly). You’d think I was talking about running off to join the circus, instead of taking a few years off to raise my child. I get that it’s a touchy subject, but at the end of the day, I’m doing what I think is best for my family. Sometimes you have to remind yourself of that.

Your definition of success will change

I love affirmation and recognition as much as the next gal. But I’ve got to be honest: I recently watched Joshua take his first steps, and it far surpassed any sense of satisfaction I’ve ever gotten from a promotion, fancy new job title or bonus. Hands down.

It’s not always perfect. But sometimes it is

When I first became a SAHM, I thought Joshua and I would spend our days frolicking at the playground, strolling adorably through our leafy neighborhood or sitting quietly under a tree reading a book together. Besides the fact that we don’t live in a Crewcuts catalog, real life got in the way. As I quickly realized, crying, crankiness and dirty diapers can kill even the best-laid plans. But still, every now and then, the stars align and those picture-perfect days happen. And when they do, I’m overwhelmed with a sense of gratitude that I’m able to spend every moment of them with my boy.

Funny (…and true!) Baby Quotes

Thursday, July 5th, 2012

Funny quotes about babies and pregnancy

When you become a mother, you will find that some days may become rather overwhelming. While we are busy taking care of the home front, our children, and working; we are still expected to put ourselves together so that we can be presentable (or as presentable as a goth, punk, or any other alternative parent can get). It can become rather tiring on the day to day basis, so it is sometimes important to let yourself relax a bit. Whether it involves taking a little time out and enjoying a long hot bath, all the way to browsing online for the newest fashion trend for children. I have compiled a small list, of heart warming and uplifting quotes that have helped me through even my darkest of days. I can only hope that you enjoy them, just keep in mind that this is meant for fun. If you are more in the mood to learn something, I may be inclined to direct you to the many other fine articles here on this site, or browsing the plethora of clothes that are available to you.

There is no finer investment for any community than putting milk into babies.
- Winston Churchill

Making the decision to have a child- it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside your body.
- Elizabeth Stone

Having a child is surely the most beautifully irrational act that two people in love can commit.
- Bill Cosby

If one feels the need of something grand, something infinite, something that makes one feel aware of god, one need not go far to find it. I think that I see something deeper, more infinite, more eternal than the ocean in the expression of the eyes of a little baby, when it wakes in the morning and coos or laughs because it sees the sun shining on it’s cradle.
- Vincent Van Gogh

A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for.
- Unknown Author

Diaper backward spells repaid. Think about it.
- Marshall McLuhan

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don’t have one.
- Leo J. Burke.

It sometimes happens, even in the best of families, that a baby is born. This is not necessarily cause for alarm. The important thing is to keep your wits about you and borrow some money.
- Elinor Goulding Smith

The worst feature of a new baby is its mother’s singing.
- Kin Hubbard

My friend has a baby, I am recording all the noises he makes so I can later ask him what he meant.
- Stephen Wright

Babies are always more trouble than you thought, and more wonderful.
- Charles Osgood

Having a baby changes the way you view your in-laws, I love it when they come to visit now. They can hold the baby, and I can go out.
- Matthew Broderick

Families with babies, and families without babies are sorry for each other.
- Ed Howe


Thursday, July 5th, 2012

Pet Parade Main Branch Saturday, July 7 10:30 - 11:30 a.m. Families are invited to bring their pets for a pet show with awards for Longest Tail, Best Trick, Shortest Fur, Best at Playing Frozen Statue, etc. Learn about taking care of your pet plus choosing future pets from local experts.

To register call 905-683-4000 ext. 8811 starting June 1.

Event Details:

Date: 07-07-2020
Time: 10:30 am - 11:30 am
Venue: 55 Harwood Avenue South AjaxL1S 2H8
Cost: free

Was it a HE or a SHE? Our Gender Reveal Party Revealed!

Tuesday, July 3rd, 2012

I’ve been up since 6am tossing and turning constantly thinking about last nights events. I’m feeling a mix of shock, happiness, disbelief & sheer joy and I wanted to share some photos with you all

Last night we had our much anticipated (mostly by me and the hubs) gender reveal party for Baby B! We invited a small intimate group of our immediate family and a handful of close friends to our place to celebrate with us.

It all started early this week when I went for my scheduled 19 week anatomy ultrasound (often when you also find out the gender). Apparently baby was in an awkward position and although the tech could get most of the measurements she couldn’t get all. I had mentioned before we started that I didn’t want to know the sex but that if she could find it to write it down on a piece of paper I had brought with me. Turns out she wasn’t able to make a sure assessment so I left there with an appointment to come back in 2 weeks and no gender results.

With the gender reveal party already planned for Friday I called my husband to let him know the results of the ultrasound (mostly that baby looked healthy). He then took matters into his own hands and booked me a 3D ultrasound at BabyView for that afternoon!

We walked in kinda skeptical that they too wouldn’t get us an answer but was greeted by Cheryl who made us feel welcome and confident that we would have a great experience. Once I explained to her our whole finding out with our family she was excited for us and asked us to close our eyes so she could scan for the gender. Once she had done that we got to see baby (which Scott says looks like a ninja turtle lol) moving around which was a very cool experience.

Cheryl then wrote down the gender for us and placed it in a sealed envelope for us. We were so thrilled with our experience at BabyView that we are going back at 30 weeks to see baby look more like baby and less like a ninja turtle

With the results in hand we handed it over to a friend of a friend who then passed it along to our wonderful friend and owner of Custom Cakes By Jenz (whom also made our wedding cake!). She was the only one that knew our secret and when she arrived on Friday with the cake we could not have been more pleased, I mean just look at it!

Once everyone got there and we had a bite to eat it was time to cut the cake and reveal if we would have a baby girl or boy We had taken a poll and it seemed to be pretty evenly split!

Well, I’m so pleased to announce we are expecting a baby……………

My reaction?

Complete shock! Since most everyone had been saying boy I guess deep down I assumed boy so once I turned around and saw the pink cake I started to cry I guess because I was taken off guard and so happy all at the same time. Everyone started yelling GIRL and the room filled with watery eyes, laughter and hugs.
This was truly a special day for both Scott and I and I would not change finding out WITH our family and friends for the world! It was so amazing to have them share in that moment and the videos and photos will be in our memory forever to hopefully show our baby one day.
I want to send a huge thank you to every one of our friends and family who came and made it so memorable. Special thanks goes to my dear friend Jen who made our cake and kept our secret, to our friend Josh who we have to thank for these awesome photos and to Cheryl at BabyView who was so sweet and also kept our secret
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Soft Lemon-Ginger Cookies Recipe

Tuesday, July 3rd, 2012

Loaded with old-fashioned flavor, this yummy cookie is hard to beat. You’ll love munching a few with coffee, tea or a glass of cold milk.








  • 1/2 cup butter, softened
  • 1 cup packed brown sugar
  • 1 egg
  • 3 tablespoons sour cream
  • 1/2 teaspoon lemon extract
  • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 1-3/4 cups all-purpose flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1 teaspoon cream of tartar
  • 1 teaspoon ground ginger
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt


  • In a large bowl, cream butter and brown sugar until light and fluffy. Beat in the egg, sour cream and extracts. Combine the flour, baking soda, cream of tartar, ginger and salt; gradually add to creamed mixture and mix well.
  • Drop by rounded teaspoonfuls 2 in. apart onto ungreased baking sheets. Bake at 350° for 10-12 minutes or until lightly browned. Immediately remove from pans to wire racks. Yield: 2 dozen.

Nutritional Facts 1 serving (2 each) equals 218 calories, 9 g fat (5 g saturated fat), 41 mg cholesterol, 246 mg sodium, 32 g carbohydrate, 1 g fiber, 3 g protein.