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7 Things I’m Doing Differently with Baby Number Two

Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015

By: Christine Fadel | Posted: February 2, 2015  Article on What to

First-time moms have no clue what they’re doing. At least I didn’t.

I knew, in theory, the things to do and how they should be done. (Of course, this was all according to my mother, my grandmother, old folklore, my friends with kids, the books, the experts and the random strangers who accosted me in the supermarket to tell me that I was doing it wrong.) But I didn’t truly know what I was doing until I was in the trenches of early motherhood — actually doing it.

This is why my first child was a bit of a science experiment. She fulfilled the trial and error portion of the parenthood program, all the while, preparing me for baby number two. This isn’t to say that there won’t be major adjustments with my second child; nor, does it say that the things that worked with my first won’t work for my second or vice versa. What it does say is that there is a benefit to all the trial and error. You live and learn, if you will.

So, here are the seven things that I’m hoping to do differently with my soon-to-be-born second daughter:

1. I will have a birth plan. My birth did not go very well. I went into labor without any real idea about the kind of experience I wanted to have, and I assumed other people would make the best decisions for me. That outlook backfired. I was pressured into an epidural because I was progressing so quickly — which I was later told caused my labor to slow down and, long story short, ultimately ended with (according to my doctor) a preventable postpartum hemorrhage. I’m aware that so much is out of my control with my daughter’s birth; however, I can at least walk (or roll via wheel chair) into that birth center with a general idea about what I want and, more important, what I don’t want to happen. And, I can make decisions for myself based on what is best for me and my health, as well as the health of the baby.

2. I will prep and freeze as many meals as I can before the baby is born. If I couldn’t make it and eat it with one hand or if my husband couldn’t order it or reheat it, it wasn’t in the cards for my newborn post baby diet. Now that we also have a 3-year-old to feed, my hope is to make at least a few weeks worth of meals to have on hand. Even if it’s nothing but frozen Bolognese sauce or premarinated meats that my husband can throw in the slow cooker before he leaves for work and hearty and healthy hydrating soups that me and my oldest daughter can have for lunch, it’s still better than the endless amount of cheese sticks, drinkable yogurt and the Chinese takeout I survived off of for months.

3. I will get out of the house. Blame the constant nursing, the lack of motivation to shower or get dressed, or the postpartum depression I was suffering from, but I don’t think I left the house for a solid few months after my daughter was born. That is, unless I absolutely was forced to. And while I don’t think my 3-year-old will give me many other options after her sister is born - the playground isn’t going to play itself, Mom! — I now know that two of the best things for mama and baby are fresh air and vitamin D.

4. I will buy less stuff. Registries are fun. Little miniature overalls are quite possibly the most adorable things ever made. What isn’t fun? Realizing that you only used half of those baby “necessities” once or twice, and your baby never wore those adorable overalls because she outgrew them two days after birth. With your second baby, you just know better. Also, your toddler already takes up enough room — why add more to the mix than necessary? Do I really need that huge, bulky plastic infant bathtub? No, no I don’t. Do I need the swing and the bouncer and the huge plastic Exersaucer? No. No, I don’t.

5. I will ask for help. If you’re like me, you feel this need to be ON when you have guests in your home. But let me please assure you that being ON is the opposite of what guests expect from you when you’ve just had a baby. Those sweet relatives and caring friends are not only there to see and hold the new baby, they’re also there to help you get adjusted in your new role. Whether that is to bring you lunch, lend a helping hand to the dishes or pop in a load of the endless laundry that piles up with a newborn, they have very capable and willing hands — all you have to do is ask. I’m not quite sure why I was hesitant to ask people for help: Maybe it was pride or the pressure to be Super Mom from the onset of motherhood. But I would’ve saved myself a lot of stress had I just swallowed that instinct to entertain and let my eager-to-help loved ones be ON for me.

6. I will cut myself some slack. The first few months with a newborn are tricky, whether it’s your first or your fourth. With my first baby, I had a completely delusional idea of what early motherhood looked like, yet I was the opposite of what I pictured: I was grossly sweaty, I had a stranger attached to my breast constantly, I couldn’t stop crying uncontrollably, and contrary to what the media sells us, my body was not ready for a bikini two weeks after giving birth. And as if motherhood isn’t tough enough, I put this extra pressure on myself to be what I pictured as the ideal. Unfortunately, because my reality and behind the scenes looked very little like the highlight reels so many people put out there for all to see, I thought something was wrong with me, which wasn’t the case at all. This time around, I want to keep everything in perspective and remind myself that I deserve grace and patience just like I would give it to anyone else. If early motherhood with one child was tough, I imagine I’ll need all the patience and grace when bringing another baby into the mix.

7. I will live in the moment. What is the one thing you hear consistently from every other mother who has come before you? “Enjoy every moment because it flies by and the next minute, they’re going off to college!” You shrug it off with your first because at that point, you’re simply trying to survive the colic, the reflux, the constant wake ups and the manic growth spurts. You often feel like that (insert any particular stage here) will never, ever end. But it does end. All of a sudden, your colicky newborn is a thriving 3-year-old who has earth shattering tantrums, a toddler who doesn’t need or want as many cuddles as she once did, and who won’t slow down even for a second just to give you a hug. So, yes, I will absolutely live in the moment. I won’t wish a second away, even if they’re difficult and some of the most trying of my life because I am now achingly aware of how much I’ll miss those moments once they are gone.

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Morning Sickness

Thursday, August 8th, 2013

By Krystin Edgerton

Becoming pregnant is the beginning of creating something that is a part of you. It’s learning and growing with your child and most importantly experiencing a new kind of love. The excitement is overwhelming and it seems everyone is smiling, buying your baby gifts and touching your growing belly. Then it hits you… morning sickness. According to Todays Parent, 80 to 90 percent of mommy’s- to- be experience this unpleasant encounter and it often warrants some questions. Through this post we hope to answer some of them.

What is morning sickness?

Despite the name, morning sickness can affect pregnant women at any time during the course of a day. It can happen when waking up, or by simply smelling something that is no longer agreeable to your body. Although morning sickness can put a negative spin on your day, studies suggest that there is also a positive aspect- as it indicates that your pregnancy hormones levels are high and that the placenta is developing well.

When will morning sickness stop?

Most women who experience morning sickness say it began and stopped within their first trimester. Usually it will start five to six weeks after becoming pregnant and subside by week 14. However some women have said it has lasted right until week 16.

Will morning sickness hurt my baby?

As long as you’re keeping some food down and drinking plenty of fluids your baby will not be in any danger. Your liver stores many nutrients that your baby will need to develop normally. Be sure to take your vitamin’s, including Folic acid; to help keep you and your developing fetus healthy. Morning sickness can sometimes be detrimental for you and your baby if it is excessive. The medical term for this is Hyperemesis Gravidarum, meaning severe nausea/vomiting and weight loss. It is important that if you feel you have this condition to contact your medical provider right away. Below we have put together a chart to help distinguish between Hyperemesis Gravidarum and Morning sickness.

Hyperemesis Gravidarum

Morning Sickness

Nausea accompanied by severe vomiting Nausea occasionally accompanied by vomiting
Vomiting causing severe dehydration Vomiting that does not cause severe dehydration
Weight loss of more than 5% of your pre pregnancy weight Some weight loss
Sickness does not improve after first trimester Sickness improves after the first trimester

What things can I do to help prevent morning sickness?

There is no established method of preventing morning sickness, however there are some things you can do to help reduce its occurrence. Keep in mind not every woman is the same, some things might work for you and others may not.


Wear loose clothing

Eat small meals often

Drink fluids throughout the day to help with dehydration

Get plenty of rest

Avoid warm places

Avoid fatty or spicy foods

Avoid caffeine

Have ginger

Just remember morning sickness does occur in most women so you are not alone! Keep focussed on your precious bundle and it will be over soon enough.

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Reality Checks for Moms

Thursday, December 13th, 2012

I came across this article today on under Health and Family and just had to share it with all of you. It made in laugh and think; “I really need to check those books out the next time I’m at Chapters”.

By Bonnie Rochman
The leap from zippy coupe to Honda Odyssey is both physical and emotional. That’s why How to Look Hot in a Minivan is here to help. You’ll feel better about your post-baby body when you learn it’s not just you who needs a little firming up; Hollywood journalist Janice Min tells us that Gwyneth Paltrow relied on two pairs of Spanx after daughter Apple arrived. If celeb moms can drop their baby weight, sister, so can you. But what if all that dieting makes you grouchy? No worries. Sh*tty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us discusses — nay, champions —parenting’s low points with chapters titled “How to Drop Your Sick Kid Off at Daycare Before the Teacher Figures It Out” and “It’s Come to Your Attention That Your Kid Is Merely Average.” Average? Our kid? Sorry, we couldn’t hear you. Raffi’s playing too loudly in the minivan.

Growing Baby Prenatal

Tuesday, November 13th, 2012

Growing Baby Prenatal provides a variety of services for parents to be. Our prenatal classes will help you prepare for labour, birth and the early weeks with your new baby. Our classes will give you a better understanding of the labour and birthing process and help your parter feel more confident about how to support you during and after birth. Growing Baby will give you all the information you need to help you make informed decisions about your care. You’ll learn everything from pre-labour signs to breathing techniques and labour massage to swaddling a baby. All of our classes come with handouts to take home and some goodies! We also offer baby massage classes for new parents. Our group classes are fun and informative and offered in Toronto and Ajax Pickering and take place in a very relaxed and casual environment. To register for or to inquire about a class, please contact Janice Holsmer.

Growing Baby: Pregnancy, Childbirth, Breastfeeding, Parenting & Fitness

2 Locations:

947 Queen Street East @ Carlaw in Toronto

1555 Kingston Road, Suite 208 in Pickering at Chiropractic Centre For Optimum Health

A Healthy Pregnancy is in Your Hands

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

If you are pregnant, or are planning to become pregnant, this Website is for you!

Pregnancy Fun Facts!

Tuesday, July 13th, 2010

The average age for a first time mother is 25-29. It used to be 21 in 1970!

Some Hospitals claim that the Labor and Delivery floor tended to be busier during thunderstorms

The state with the highest birth rate is Mississippi.

10% of births are inductions.

The number of multiple births has quadrupled over the past 20 years. I think Octomom had something to do with that statistic!

The world’s first test tube twins were Stephen and Amanda Mays. They were born June 5, 1981.

The average woman’s uterus expands up to five hundred times its normal size during pregnancy. It only takes 6-8 weeks for it to return to its original size.

May babies are on average 7 ounces heavier than babies born in other months. I would like to suggest this is because the moms have been pregnant during Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter, which are all big “food holidays.”

When a woman is pregnant, her senses are all heightened. My ability to detect the presence of french fries 3 miles away during pregnancy is proof of that!

Your feet may grow 1-2 sizes during each pregnancy.

Pregnancy messes with your hair growth pattern, causing you to have a fuller head of hair during pregnancy and experience increased hair loss afterward. Don’t worry, your hair returns to its normal growth pattern about six months after delivery.

Babies play with their umbilical cord in the womb. They also suck their thumb, drink, hiccup, yawn, and dream

Your first pregnancy tends to be longer than subsequent ones.

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